In yesterday’s newspaper, an article was printed about the fear of failure. The author of a new book described some of the characteristics of people with a fear of failure:
- not being able to sleep after being critisized;
- physical complaints like headache and painful muscles of stress;
- going over things in their mind;
- imagine disaster scenario’s;
- avoiding challenges to avoid new critique;
- handing over tasks or postponing them as long as possible;
- they block as soon as others could judge them;
- critique brings them down, while a compliment hardly has any effect;
- perfectionistic;
- they take on their identity from other people’s judgement;
- highly demanding of themselves.
Ouch. That hurts. Some more than others, but still….
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hmmm after reading the article, I now understand what my coach is getting at.
So you’re not alone :-B
this part of the gita always gives me some peace of mind:
”
Equate pain and pleasure, profit and loss
Victory and defeat.
And fight.
There is no blame this way.
There is no waste of half done work in this,
No inconsistent results.
An iota of this removes a world of fear.
In this tgere is only single-minded consistency;
While the efforts of confused people
Are many branching and full of contradiction.
Your duty is to work, not to reap the fruits of work…
”
not because I’m religious. but someone long ago problably had the same problems.
Dealing with the difficult stuff in itself gives me some motivation, as long as I repeat aformentioned mantra.
“there is no blame this way…”
but I aint no milkrun.
take care.
Ernst